Confidence Is Quiet… But the Way It Moves? LOUD.
Takeaways:
- Confidence is not contingent upon external validation; it flourishes when one is self-assured.
- True confidence manifests quietly and is often felt rather than explicitly conveyed through words.
- The essence of confidence involves simply existing without the compulsion to seek approval.
- Real confidence allows individuals to disengage from situations that do not serve their well-being.
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Second season Outro
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Season 2 Intro
Transcript
I be feeling like the man when I walk through.
Speaker A:You know, black folks don't ever know the words to songs anyway.
Speaker A:Hey, y', all, welcome back to Receipts and Reflections after the Hustle.
Speaker A:Okay, now let me ask you something real quick.
Speaker A:Have you ever walked into a room and just didn't feel like you had to prove anything?
Speaker A:Not a thing.
Speaker A:Not impress nobody, not explain yourself, not overcompensate.
Speaker A:Just walk in and be good.
Speaker A:Because, baby, that right there, that's confidence.
Speaker A:And it doesn't always look loud.
Speaker A:I didn't say nothing about being the loudest in the room.
Speaker A:I said being the proudest in the room.
Speaker A:But, oh, listen, they may not necessarily hear you, baby, but they feel it.
Speaker A:Okay, before we get into it, though, before we even go there, let me go ahead and check in with you, sis.
Speaker A:How are you feeling today?
Speaker A:Are you feeling like yourself?
Speaker A:Do you feel like you're in your own lane?
Speaker A:Are you minding your business with a little glow, little glowing and growing?
Speaker A:Or are you second guessing, overthinking?
Speaker A:Are you questioning your next move?
Speaker A:Whatever your feelings is, just notice it.
Speaker A:Because today we gonna talk about confidence, but not the fake it till you make it kind, the real kind.
Speaker A:Okay, let me ask you something.
Speaker A:When did confidence become something that we thought that we had to perform?
Speaker A:Because I know that we all know that statement.
Speaker A:Fake it till you make it.
Speaker A:When?
Speaker A:Who taught us that?
Speaker A:When did we learn that?
Speaker A:Because honestly, a lot of what we see is not confidence is loud.
Speaker A:It's curated.
Speaker A:Especially right now in this whole influencer era, where so many people show up publicly to demonstrate lives that they really don't live.
Speaker A:It's the look at me, but the real confidence, it don't need all that.
Speaker A:It don't even need all that.
Speaker A:And let's go ahead and talk about it.
Speaker A:You ever had a moment where the old shoe would have reacted but the new?
Speaker A:You didn't even flinch, didn't even.
Speaker A:Didn't even wobble a little bit.
Speaker A:Like, somebody says something slick.
Speaker A:And instead of checking them, explaining yourself, matching funky energy, you just look, okay, all right, then.
Speaker A:And you kept it moving.
Speaker A:Or what about this one?
Speaker A:You walk into a space and you don't feel like, I hope they like me.
Speaker A:You feel like, baby, I like me.
Speaker A:There's a big difference.
Speaker A:Or here's my favorite.
Speaker A:When you finally stop over explaining, over sharing, over proving, and you just exist.
Speaker A:Let's say it.
Speaker A:Confidence is not, I'm better than you.
Speaker A:It's, I'm good with me.
Speaker A:And, baby, that right there just.
Speaker A:It just Hits different.
Speaker A:Let me tell you something.
Speaker A:There was a time where I did need the validation.
Speaker A:I needed it.
Speaker A:I needed to know if I was doing it right, if people approved, if I was being received well.
Speaker A:And now I don't move like that anymore.
Speaker A:Not because I don't care, but because I'm not dependent on it.
Speaker A:And that freedom, that's freedom.
Speaker A:Let's talk about how confidence really shows up.
Speaker A:Confidence is not explaining your no.
Speaker A:Not responding to everything, not shrinking in rooms, not feeling the need to be liked by everybody.
Speaker A:Confidence is also leaving when you want to.
Speaker A:Getting up from the table whenever you don't like what they serving, saying less, doing your thing without a big old announcement.
Speaker A:And let's be real, confidence will have people thinking, oh, she changed.
Speaker A:And you like and did and did.
Speaker A:Okay, let's talk about what really did actually change.
Speaker A:You stopped needing the approval, the validation, the permission, and you started trusting yourself.
Speaker A:That's it.
Speaker A:That's the shift.
Speaker A:This shows up everywhere in your relationships.
Speaker A:You don't chase, you don't over give in your business.
Speaker A:You don't undercharge, you don't over explain your value in your everyday life.
Speaker A:You move with ease because you're not trying to prove anything.
Speaker A:And let me say this clearly.
Speaker A:Confidence is quiet, but the way it moves, baby, is loud.
Speaker A:You don't have to say much.
Speaker A:People feel it.
Speaker A:They don't feel it.
Speaker A:So this week I want you to notice something.
Speaker A:Where are you still trying to prove yourself?
Speaker A:What are the spaces where you can just be?
Speaker A:I want you to try it.
Speaker A:Say like less, do less.
Speaker A:And just watch how powerful that feels.
Speaker A:Now, before we go, let's we going to bring it on in.
Speaker A:Listen to me when I tell you this.
Speaker A:You don't have to perform confidence.
Speaker A:You just have to be grounded who you are.
Speaker A:And that right there, that is more than enough.
Speaker A:I want you to be gentle with yourself this week, sis.
Speaker A:I want you to stay aware.
Speaker A:I want you to keep your head on a swivel and stay connected to yourself until we meet again.
Speaker A:I love y'.
Speaker A:All.
Speaker A:I'll meet you right back here next Monday.
