Everything I Needed to Know… He Said in One Sentence
Some dates don’t require time to figure out…
because everything you need to know gets revealed immediately.
In this episode, I’m sharing a story about a date that went left in the most unexpected — and honestly hilarious — way.
From one sentence that changed everything…
to realizing in real time that this wasn’t a connection…
to navigating the rest of the moment while staying calm (and out of jail 😭)…
this is about trusting what you see when people show you who they are.
Because the truth is…
you don’t need a long experience to recognize misalignment.
Sometimes?
It only takes one moment.
✨ WHAT YOU’LL REFLECT ON:
- How quickly people reveal their intentions
- Why first impressions matter more than we admit
- What it looks like to trust your instincts in real time
- How to laugh at experiences that didn’t go how you expected
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Companies mentioned in this episode:
- Tory Burch
- Uber
Mentioned in this episode:
2nd season Mylani commercial- short version
Season 2 Intro
Second season Outro
Transcript
Just waking up in the morning.
Speaker A:Gotta thank God.
Speaker A:Hey.
Speaker A:Hey, friend.
Speaker A:Welcome back to Receipts and Reflections after the Hustle.
Speaker A:Okay, now listen, I'm gonna tell you right now, today is not a deep episode.
Speaker A:Today is a girl, let me tell you what happened type of episode, because I just had a moment.
Speaker A:And when I tell you, everything I needed to know was revealed in one doggone sentence.
Speaker A:But before I even get into it, because I need to have a breath, because, you know, you ever have moments where you start reflecting and you make yourself mad all over again?
Speaker A:Yeah, and about that.
Speaker A:But before I even get there, I' ma calm myself down.
Speaker A:But let me ask you, sis, how are you doing?
Speaker A:How are you doing today?
Speaker A:How are you feeling today?
Speaker A:Are you in a good mood?
Speaker A:Are you minding your business?
Speaker A:Are you staying out the way?
Speaker A:Me, personally, I'm sitting here looking cheap.
Speaker A:I got my bonnet on, I got my mumu on.
Speaker A:I am loving my life right now, okay?
Speaker A:Or on the other hand, are you irritated?
Speaker A:Are you just slightly over people?
Speaker A:Are you one interaction away from saying, you know what?
Speaker A:Just go ahead and be honest.
Speaker A:Whatever it is, however you feeling, be honest.
Speaker A:It's a safe space.
Speaker A:I'm not judging.
Speaker A:I do be judging, but I'm not judging, okay?
Speaker A:Because after this story, I ain't got no room to be judging nobody.
Speaker A:You gonna probably feel very validated in whatever it is that you're feeling, okay?
Speaker A:So I'm gonna go ahead and set the scene.
Speaker A:I'm gonna go ahead and set it up properly.
Speaker A:This was, of course, after my divorce.
Speaker A:So I'm outside.
Speaker A:You know, I'm not outside outside, but I'm outside, right?
Speaker A:And I'm like, let me go ahead and see what's poppin.
Speaker A:Let me see what's going on out here.
Speaker A:But cautiously, respectfully, you know, I'm just gonna dip my toe in.
Speaker A:Not the whole thing.
Speaker A:You know, I'm gonna dip my toe in the pool, first of all, because I can't swim, you know, But I'm just gonna dip my toe in and see what it do.
Speaker A:So I meet this man.
Speaker A:The conversation's cool.
Speaker A:Nothing alarming.
Speaker A:Like, nothing that made me think, yeah, yeah, this is gonna be a problem.
Speaker A:So we decide to go on a date now.
Speaker A:We meet up.
Speaker A:Of course, I drove my own car.
Speaker A:And let me just really quick give y' all a backstory in case you.
Speaker A:You know, because some of y' all don't necessarily know me personally.
Speaker A:And for those of you who do know me, you guys may not know this, but there is a reason Why?
Speaker A:I always normally drive my own car, especially when we're going out.
Speaker A: Picture this,: Speaker A:And, you know, I. I'm a little rusty, especially whenever it comes to walking in heels.
Speaker A:So my man had got me a cute little pair of Tory Burches.
Speaker A:And, you know, I couldn't wait to crack them things open, you know, and.
Speaker A:And see what it do.
Speaker A:I've been wearing flats, I've been pregnant, and I'm, you know, working in the salon.
Speaker A:I couldn't wait to throw some heels on.
Speaker A:So I'm in Seattle.
Speaker A:I'm going out with my favorite cousins.
Speaker A:Love y'.
Speaker A:All.
Speaker A:Love y' all big.
Speaker A:Especially my cousin, who is, like, more like a brother to me.
Speaker A:Love him to death.
Speaker A:I'm still mad about this particular night, but whatever.
Speaker A:Anyway, so we're going out.
Speaker A:I'm out with all my favorite cuddies, right?
Speaker A:And I'm wearing the heels.
Speaker A:So we're at the club.
Speaker A:It's popping.
Speaker A:You know what I mean?
Speaker A:It's popping.
Speaker A:And I'm like, ooh, I've been missing out.
Speaker A:Okay, so I go up to the little top area for whatever reason, and then I'm coming back down, down these set of stairs.
Speaker A:And the stairs are.
Speaker A:Picture it, you guys.
Speaker A:It's like the stairs are like the.
Speaker A:The.
Speaker A:The central focus of the, like, main club, The.
Speaker A:The.
Speaker A:The dance floor, right?
Speaker A:So, like, if you're coming down the stairs or you're going up the stairs, everyone can see you.
Speaker A:So as I'm coming down the stairs, my ankle decides it that I don't need it no more.
Speaker A:I ain't even going to work no more.
Speaker A:So as I'm going down the stairs, I tumble.
Speaker A:I tumble down all the stairs in slow motion.
Speaker A:And I could see my cousin who's walking behind me, my female cousin, and she's reaching out for me in slow motion.
Speaker A:Like, I can see.
Speaker A:It's like, no, right?
Speaker A:And.
Speaker A:But I'm tumbling.
Speaker A:I'm still tumbling, right?
Speaker A:So I get up and I done broke one of the heels, y'.
Speaker A:All.
Speaker A:It's literally.
Speaker A:It's literally an L. It's literally an L. Oh.
Speaker A:Anyway, so I rode with my family, so I didn't.
Speaker A:I didn't have access to leave.
Speaker A:And this is like, even before Uber was really like a thing, right?
Speaker A:Or at least not for me.
Speaker A:I'm out of practice.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:I don't go nowhere.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:So I'm stuck on this L shaped heel.
Speaker A:I don't I literally done took a L, y'.
Speaker A:All, okay?
Speaker A:I'm on this L shaped heel and I am just having a function for the rest of the night.
Speaker A:And these, this is these.
Speaker A:My cousins are younger than me, so they be really ready to function, right?
Speaker A:And so we are at the club for another additional maybe good couple hours, and then they want to go to breakfast.
Speaker A:I want to go home.
Speaker A:I want to go home.
Speaker A:I am hobbling on this, this L shaped hill, y'.
Speaker A:All.
Speaker A:Anyway, what that taught me in life is that I'm always going to drive myself.
Speaker A:Because if anything were to happen, being as I have not stopped being the accident prone person in the room, I'm going home.
Speaker A:I'm getting in my car and I'm going home.
Speaker A:So anyway, to give, we're gonna go back to the date now.
Speaker A:So obviously I have.
Speaker A:I'm driven myself.
Speaker A:So we meet up and everything seems normal.
Speaker A:We're sitting, we're talking, and I'm thinking, okay, all right, little baby, this is decent.
Speaker A:I mean, nothing crazy, but decent, right?
Speaker A:And then out of nowhere, mid conversation, this man stops, looks me dead in my eyes and says, you know, you got you some nice lips, right?
Speaker A:Friends, listen.
Speaker A:First, silence.
Speaker A:Okay?
Speaker A:Then what, Jigga, what?
Speaker A:Second of all, why would you say that out loud?
Speaker A:And third, sir, we are in public.
Speaker A:Have some cool about yourself.
Speaker A:Now.
Speaker A:In my head, I had about a good 17 at the very least responses.
Speaker A:None of them would have been cool.
Speaker A:None of them would have been appropriate.
Speaker A:None of them would have been kind.
Speaker A:I come from the ranking era.
Speaker A:I am.
Speaker A:That's.
Speaker A:That is a default for me.
Speaker A:I immediately go into clowning mode, okay?
Speaker A:I go into wild n out mode.
Speaker A:And definitely none of the things that had come up in my mind had aligned with the growth that I had at that point worked so very hard on, okay?
Speaker A:Because immediately I knew, this right here is not a man of substance.
Speaker A:You nasty.
Speaker A:This is a man of what that mouth do.
Speaker A:And I was offended.
Speaker A:Not even because totally of what he had said, but because of his audacious behavior, the audacity.
Speaker A:So let's say it.
Speaker A:Sometimes men will tell you exactly what type of time that they are on immediately.
Speaker A:They can't even hide it.
Speaker A:They're not capable.
Speaker A:And y', all, it is your responsibility to believe them.
Speaker A:But wait, because it gets better or worse, I don't know, depending on how you look at it.
Speaker A:Okay, so the date wraps up and I am already mentally checked out.
Speaker A:Like, I'm just like, yeah, no, this ain't it.
Speaker A:We done here.
Speaker A:This man then says to me, well, I took an Uber here.
Speaker A:And I'm like, okay.
Speaker A:And.
Speaker A:And then he follows up with, so, can you take me home?
Speaker A:Now?
Speaker A:Listen, wait a minute.
Speaker A:Because not only did you disrespect me, but now you on transportation.
Speaker A:You want me to try met?
Speaker A:You want me to Metro you somewhere?
Speaker A:And at this point, I'm sitting there like, charlisa, stay calm, stay evolved, stay out of jail.
Speaker A:Because what I wanted to do was not aligned with my future.
Speaker A:It was also not aligned with the lack of bail money that I had stored up at that time.
Speaker A:Okay, if we're going to be real.
Speaker A:But here is the real takeaway.
Speaker A:That moment taught me something very, very, very important.
Speaker A:You don't need a long time to figure out what somebody is about, pay attention to what they say, how they move, what they prioritize.
Speaker A:In this case, my man hadn't prioritized manners or his own vehicle.
Speaker A:The hell?
Speaker A:Because anyway, people are gonna tell on themselves quickly.
Speaker A:And we have all had moments like this where you're sitting there thinking, why did I even come?
Speaker A:Or, you know what?
Speaker A:I should just trusted my first freaking thought.
Speaker A:But instead, you stayed.
Speaker A:And now at least you got a story, y'.
Speaker A:All.
Speaker A:I. I stay with a story.
Speaker A:So let me just say this clearly.
Speaker A:Not every experience is a loss.
Speaker A:It might be his loss anyway, but some of them are just that.
Speaker A:They're just stories.
Speaker A:And, baby, this one.
Speaker A:This one is a story.
Speaker A:So I want you to think about it.
Speaker A:What's a moment where you realize, yeah, nah, this ain't it.
Speaker A:This ain't it.
Speaker A:And you had to just sit there and see it through anyway, my boy, how often has that happened?
Speaker A:Just think about it now before we go.
Speaker A:We're gonna go ahead and bring this on in.
Speaker A:Every experience just doesn't need to turn into something.
Speaker A:Some of them are just simply lessons, and some of them are just funny later.
Speaker A:And that's okay, because at least now you know.
Speaker A:So be gentle with yourself this week, sis.
Speaker A:Stay aware, keep your head on a swivel, and stay connected to yourself until we meet again.
Speaker A:I love y'.
Speaker A:All.
Speaker A:I'll meet you right back here next Monday.
