Episode 18

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Published on:

15th Jun 2026

I Actually Like It Here

Takeaways:

  • In moments of stillness, we often discover a profound sense of contentment within ourselves.
  • True joy may manifest quietly, often unnoticed amidst the hustle and bustle of life.
  • We must learn to cherish the present, recognizing that we are entitled to joy, even amidst imperfection.
  • Pausing to assess our current emotional state allows us to appreciate the peace we often overlook.

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Living my life like it's golden I'm a busted wide open I'm taking my freedom Putting it on the shelf hey.

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Hey, friend.

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Welcome back to Receipts and Reflections after the Hustle.

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Okay, now, before we even start, I want you to slow down with me for just a quick little second.

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I want you to take a breath.

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For real.

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Take a breath.

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Not because something's wrong, but because sometimes we don't pause long enough to realize what's actually right.

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Take my phantom.

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Hey, now, let me ask you something.

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When was the last time you really sat with your life and thought, you know what?

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I actually like it here?

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I love this.

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For me, not perfect.

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You don't have everything figured out, but just genuinely peaceful in a good space.

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When's the last time?

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Before we go further, let me just really quickly check in with you.

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How are you feeling today, sis?

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How are you?

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Are you present?

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You feeling grateful?

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Are you in a good space?

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Or are you distracted?

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Are you overwhelmed?

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Do you feel like things are moving too fast for you to even notice?

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Whatever that feeling is, I just want you to notice it.

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Just notice it.

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Because today we're going to talk about joy.

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Joy.

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And not the loud kind, the quiet kind, the kindness.

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Just gonna sneak up on you now.

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Let me ask you something.

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Have you ever had a moment where nothing special was happening?

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Nothing.

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No fireworks, but you just felt good.

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Not excited, not overstimulated, just at peace like that.

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Just unspeakable joy.

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And you really almost didn't trust it.

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You're like, something right.

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Something right here.

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Because you know why?

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You're so used to things being busy or stressful or overwhelming.

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So when things feel calm, you're like, wait, now, wait a minute.

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Hold on now.

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Wait.

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Is something about to happen?

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Let's go ahead and talk about this.

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We're going to unpack that now.

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I had a moment recently where I was just in my space.

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Nothing fancy.

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I was just being.

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And I caught myself thinking, you know, I actually like my life.

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And it wasn't about the money, the achievements, the big milestones.

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It was just simply about my peace, my space, my mindset.

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And that hit me because there was a time where I was just trying to survive.

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I was fighting for my life, y'.

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All.

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And I was just trying to get through things.

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And now I'm actually living.

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Let's say this honestly.

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Some of us have prayed for the life that we are currently living.

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And we're so used to striving that we forget to just sit in it, just chill in it.

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And there Was a time where everything felt like, what's next?

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Now what I gotta fix what still isn't right.

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And now I'm sitting in moments like, this is enough.

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I like it here.

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And that shift, that didn't come from everything being perfect, okay?

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Hear me?

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It did not come from everything being perfect.

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It just came from me being actually present.

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From literally stopping and smelling the roses.

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I got some beautiful roses on my table, you know, Treat yourself to flowers.

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Do not wait for people to give you your flower, sis.

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Go and get you some flowers.

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It's amazing what that will do for you.

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I. I'm just.

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Hear me, hear me.

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I'm telling you.

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We'd be convincing ourselves we don't like flowers because we don't grew accustomed to not receiving them.

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Give yourself your flower, sis.

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I'm just telling you.

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Just gonna just My advice.

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I ain't gonna tell you nothing wrong now.

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Okay?

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So let's be real.

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Joy does not always look deep.

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It doesn't.

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Sometimes joy looks like just being in your house and not wanting to leave.

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Like me right now, y'.

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All.

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I'm sitting here looking cheap bonnet on mumu, no draws, okay?

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Love my life.

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I love it right here, okay?

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And I have no intention of leaving at all today.

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My car has not moved.

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And I love it, okay?

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Sometimes it's canceling plans and just feeling amazing about it.

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Like no guilt, no nothing.

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Cooking something simple and just being proud of it for yourself.

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Or just sitting in silence and not feeling lonely.

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That, my friend.

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That's joy.

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That's joy.

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Now let's talk about what changed.

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I stopped waiting for the big moments.

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I stopped waiting for these big, huge moments in order for me to feel good about my life.

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I stopped thinking, you know what?

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I'm gonna be happy when.

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And I started noticing I'm actually okay right now.

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I'm safe.

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I'm okay now.

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This is gonna show up in everything.

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In your home, in your routine, in your relationships.

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You start choosing peace over chaos, calm over confusion, presence over pressure.

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And suddenly your life just looks different.

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It does.

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Let me say this clearly.

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Joy is not going to be something that you chase.

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It's just something that you notice.

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It is a state of being.

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It's just in you.

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So this week, I.

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We going to try something, okay?

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I want you to try to do something for me, okay?

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In your random moments, I want you just to pause and ask yourself, am I okay right now?

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And if the answer is yes, sit in it.

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Sit in it.

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Don't rush past it.

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Don't rush it.

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Just enjoy it.

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Bask in that.

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You know, at this age, we need to learn how to bask.

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Just bask in it.

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Okay?

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Now, before we go, we're gonna bring it on in.

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Bring it on in, sis.

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Come on, draw.

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Draw near.

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Come closer.

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Come closer.

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You don't have to wait for everything to be perfect in order for you to enjoy your life.

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There is joy in what you've already built, even if it's still in progress.

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You are completely entitled to be a masterpiece while you are still mastering your piece.

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Okay?

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So just be gentle with yourself this week.

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Stay aware, keep your head on a swivel, and stay connected to yourself.

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You know what I'm about to do.

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Until we meet again.

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I love y'.

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All.

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I love you guys.

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For real?

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For real.

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And I will meet you right back here next Monday.

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About the Podcast

Receipts & Reflections: After The Hustle
Receipts & Reflections is a weekly podcast where host Charlisa Harris shares short, honest conversations about real-life experiences—and the lessons they leave us with—to give grown women something to reflect on all week.
Receipts & Reflections is a weekly podcast for grown women navigating real life in real time. Each Monday, host Charlisa Harris shares short, digestible episodes built around two things we all have: receipts and reflections. The receipts are the lived experiences—relationships, divorce, dating, motherhood, perimenopause, healing, boundaries, joy, grief, and the moments that change us. The reflections are what came after—the lessons learned, the perspective gained, and the clarity that only comes with time and honesty.

This podcast is not about having it all figured out. It’s about slowing down long enough to ask, “What did this season teach me?” Episodes are intentionally brief and released every Monday to give you something to sit with, carry through your week, and come back to when life feels loud or heavy. Sometimes the conversations are tender. Sometimes they’re uncomfortable. Sometimes they’re funny, affirming, or quietly sobering—but they’re always real.

Receipts & Reflections is for women who are evolving, unlearning, and choosing themselves with more intention. For the woman who has lived enough life to know that growth doesn’t always come with answers—but it always comes with insight. Pull up a chair. Take a breath. Let’s talk about it.

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Charlisa Harris

Charlisa Harris is the host of Receipts & Reflections: After the Hustle—a podcast for grown women navigating life after survival mode. With honesty, warmth, and a little well-timed humor, Charlisa explores the real receipts of adulthood—relationships, motherhood, divorce, dating, burnout, healing, faith, and becoming a woman who no longer needs to prove anything.

A longtime entrepreneur, mother, and truth-teller, Charlisa brings lived experience to every conversation. She’s not here to preach hustle culture or perform perfection. She’s here to reflect—on what we’ve survived, what we’ve learned, and what it looks like to choose softness, boundaries, and self-trust in this season of life.

Each Monday, Receipts & Reflections delivers short, digestible episodes designed to meet listeners where they are—offering perspective, validation, and a moment of pause to carry them through the week.

This is a space for women who’ve done the work, paid the price, and are ready to live differently.